Posts Tagged ‘insecurity’

“You’ll keep losing people until you find yourself.” – Max Sterling

Our son said this to a friend recently, I won’t go into the details of their conversation but this thought alone says so much. How often does our insecurity cause us to push others away or being uncomfortable and unsure of who we are make it difficult for them to be around us? Be yourself, love yourself, God does, we do, you’re amazing!

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Can’t be found in a paycheck, a fence, a wall, a gun, an army or anything else we come up with ourselves. True security only comes from a keen understanding of how deeply God loves you, how personal and unique that love is and knowing His love will never change, never leave or even waiver.

We all have crap in our lives that we wish was gone. Insecurities that inhibit our relationships, past wounds that keep us from moving forward or even habits that are difficult to kick can have a devastating effect on our life. Don’t be discouraged, change is absolutely possible and if we’ll trust the Lord, inevitable.

Too often we’re taught that once we believe in Jesus change should be instantaneous. Scriptures like “2Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” can cause us to lose hope. Change is an everyday process not a onetime thing so maybe a better way to read this scripture would be; Therefore, those in Christ are a new creation; the old will pass away and all things are to become new.

Knowing Jesus, seeing the things in you that are not like Him and then trusting Him with them is the key to change. It really is that simple to understand but in no way does that make it easy to do. Change can be scary but God’s love for us can overcome our fear.

Having to be right is deeply rooted in insecurity. When you’re sure, it’s not important that everyone knows you’re correct.

What has God given that you could be sharing? What ability, art, skill, wisdom, experience or talent could the rest of us benefit from? We all need each other so very much. We are at our best together not when we’re keeping what we’ve been blessed with for ourselves. Don’t let fear or insecurity squash the wonder He’s given you to share.

Lord let the reality of your perfect love for me direct this day. Help me put my insecurities aside by resting in the fact that in You I have all that I need. Help me not look to others for the things I can only get from You and allow me to love out of the wealth of our relationship. The implications of Your love are astonishing, please help me catch a glimpse of them.

We all have people in our lives that are difficult to love, maybe even hard to like, they zig when we zag and we can’t seem to ever be on the same page. The reasons are varied but if you dig deep enough you’ll usually find insecurity at the root and it’s typical to find incompatible insecurity on both sides of the rub. These relationships can be the ones that miracles are found in. As we get closer to God, become more like Him, our compassion for those that are different or difficult increases. We get better at seeing the wonderful things about people; we recognize the weaknesses in others as being not different than our own and our hearts change. I’ve seen these types of relationships become some of the richest.

Genuine intimacy only happens when we are willing to be real with each other. This is especially true in our relationship with God. We have to come to him in our weakness and insecurity. Putting on an artificial “life is always grand” front only keeps the Lord and others at arms length. We needn’t be afraid to take everything to Him. Even when we are mad as hell He’s able to take it. It’s much better for us to take our anger and frustration to God than to take it out on those we love. If we’ll be real it will strengthen our relationship and help increase our ability to trust.

If we allow God’s perfect one of a kind love for us to take it’s rightful place in our hearts, we no longer have to strive to find love or approval in places that always leave us empty. We will no longer believe the lies that we are unloved and rejected because we know the truth that we are perfectly and uniquely loved and out of the abundance of that love we can share it with others.

When we are able to realize God’s perfect and unique love for us we no longer have to operate in fear and insecurity. Our refuge could not be more concrete. He really, really, really is enough so we don’t have to go looking for what we already have. We rest in this, not strive for it but it is something we need to continually apprehend through intimacy with Him.